That's NO Secret, Victoria
So this weekend the Missus and I were watching one of the eight billion reality shows on tv. Not sure which one. Not sure which channel. We were laying idly-by browsing the tv channel-by-channel, as people are want to do on a random weekend day, when we came across this little situation that caused us some debate.
A gentleman on the show, about our ages, took his girlfriend/fiancee/wife (not sure?) to a lingerie store to pick out something. All too NOT surprising, seeing such a thing caused the pause in the surfage by yours truly and prompted a brief hiatus on said channel for said exchange. They were in the store, looking around, she was trying things on, and eventually she picked something out. Nothing to strippery or Nasty. A tasteful little number. I think it is called a babydoll (?). Oh, and matching bloomers (I know how much some of you HATE the p-word). That, and the word bloomers makes me snicker.
This prompted said debate, to which I ask thee to chime in. In this situation, was the lingerie "for me, for thee, or for we"? Inquiring minds want to know.
posted by MD at
4:26 PM
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BTW, I chose said picture for no reason other than it does NOT show ridiculously shaped models in ridiculous attire. I am no smut peddler, ya'll.
hmmm.....this is a TOUGH one. i think if the item made the woman feel sexy and desirable, then it would be a "for we" item. if she would have felt pressured to wear a certain thing, and would have only been considered "sexy" in that, then not a great idea and that would have been a "for me" item on the guy's part.
for some people these items don't "do it for them".
my vote would personally be to buy something (on your own...not ME picking it out) that you think is cute/fun/hot. as long as the basis isn't "you don't look sexy unless you wear this" then it would be in good fun.
Seeing as the premise of these items is to end up on the floor, I don't think it truly matters who they are initially for, as they usually end up benefitting the "us."
If the "she" doesn't like the end result, and would rather not wear one to begin with because of that, then there is something else wrong with the "us."
(Thanks for not using the "p" word.)
Said items are for both.
So after thinking about this, IF we are sticking to the sexy items like shown in the picture then I would say that it is for both! That lingerie shown is comfortable but also sexier than the typical oversized t-shirt and sweatpants a female may be apt to wear.
However, if you are going to the all out nasty lingerie then that is more for the guy! Even though I am sure if the women feels sexy and is having fun with the outfit then it too would be both!
I guess lingerie is for both! If the women feels sexy and comfortable and the man is turned on then lingerie served its purpose.
P.S. - I think the question you should be asking is not WHO it is for (because it really is for both people) but rather how should one act when wearing this "sexy little number"? Is this for every night wear, for those special occasions, just a one time - because it was cute & I am horny thing???
I think there is alot of pressure when a women steps into sexy lingerie to act differently - like in the movies! I mean, lets be serious - the little number isn't staying on THAT long so what is the true purpose. Maybe it is all part of the foreplay, trying something new, a little more excitement - and that stuff is ALL fun! But the guy carries on wearing his normal bedroom attire whilst the lady is kinda the one on show. Should she perform, do guys want something more out of her other than just coming to bed?
I think the thing us women don't know is - well you got us in the hot lingerie, we both like it, we are both turned on, NOW WHAT??? Maybe do some dishes, clean the toilet, men - what do you want from us once we are in our attire - if anything?!?! I think that is why sometimes we can question WHO this is really for!
Sorry - I rant!
How indeed Cat Wrangler, how indeed. I don't think there is a manual on how one acts. I would not expect someone to instantly start working it Demi Moore style (Striptease) but I would expect something more than rushing out and hiding under the blankets.
I think different times call for different actions. Trying to surprise him? Just being there on the bed when he gets home or comes in from a day of shopping/yard work/whatever... just being there takes care of it all.
Now if we are talking after a late night of dinner and drinks and the lady wants to slip into something a little more comfy... that is a different story. A mild strip tease? A lapdance? A little dance? Some dirty talk and toying? I doubt any guy would turn down ANY of those things. I further doubt any lack of skill in the area would turn the guy off. It falls under the follow up to this blog... be sexy. Be confident. Own the outfit. Work the room. And do what you want. He won't object. If he does, his mancard is revoked. <- period
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